2021.12.09 03:46 BlueberryNo3773 Can you tell me if they are all oem Microsoft? And not knock offs?
2021.12.09 03:46 MeepUWU_2 Is it safe to take supplements when coming off lexapro?
2021.12.09 03:46 themoorofvenice 5-room HDB loft unit in Punggol sells for $970,000
2021.12.09 03:46 eatthesilvershorts CFTC suppresses silver manipulation evidence again
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2021.12.09 03:46 xuiy Dealing with parent health issues and scared to be completely alone. Support?
I know there are many posts like this on this sub, but just felt like sharing and seeing if anyone is going through something similar to me rn and can reply or relate.
My (24 F) parents have been having lots of health issues recently. What started my worry was ~6 months ago when my dad (69 y/o) was diagnosed with bladder cancer, which (thankfully) was quickly surgically removed with clean margins. Since then my mom (70 y/o) has been told she’s in A-Fib and has to get heart ablation surgery soon, and fell in the gym last week resulting in 10 staples in her head. Then 2 nights ago my dad told me his blood cell count is so low that he has to have a bone marrow biopsy…he just got home from the biopsy and we’re awaiting the results.
Ever since my dad’s initial health issue earlier this year, I’ve had thoughts creeping in about what will happen when he, and my mom, eventually die. I know it’s inevitable and I can’t change it, but as an only (adopted) child I feel an enormous weight worrying about what will happen when they pass, and in the past few days with all their new health issues it’s gotten unbearable and feel like it’s taken over my life.
I feel like I’m going to be all alone in this world. My parents are my best friends (among a VERY small group of other friends and distant family) and for the past decade I’ve struggled with various mental health issues (depression, anxiety, bulimia, anorexia, substance abuse, and BPD) that I still deal with and have only been able to somewhat overcome with their love and support, but I’m about to graduate from college in a week and the idea of starting my life as an independent human being who makes decisions for herself is overwhelming and scary especially as I imagine having to do it all on my own one day without them. And, having to do it all alone while grieving once they pass. It’s TERRIFYING.
I’ve spoken a little with my parents about this fear and my dad says that for every adult challenge, “it just gets done. You just have to do it, so you get things done, and you take them one at a time”. I want to believe him but honestly, as a 24 y/o living at home who’s always had her parents to rely on, I don’t trust that I can take care of myself. My first two attempts to be independent at my first college ended in long term hospitalizations for bulimia, and I’ve been scared of failure ever since. My parents took care of everything for me growing up which I’m so grateful for, but now I’m frozen with fear knowing I have to start figuring things out for myself. I don’t trust myself and fear that I won’t even have the motivation to be an independent functioning human being, and I’m seriously astounded watching friends my age move away from their parents who they feel disconnected from already and pay bills and get adult jobs and make “real lives” for themselves. I’m also an adopted child, which maybe makes no difference, but I’ve always felt an extra obligation to my parents to be a “good” child because they “chose” to love me and I feel like I’m failing their expectations by not being mentally “normal” and self-sufficient. Honestly though, my birth parents mean nothing to me and I don’t know them, and haven’t ever felt a need to - my adoptive parents are my WORLD and feel like my saviors/protectors which is also why it’s so hard to imagine them gone.
I live in NYC and I have a big fear that I won’t be able to financially provide for myself, especially after medical/senior home/funeral costs, and that I’ll wind up without any support system and struggling like the homeless people I pass every day who I know face cold, unresponsive people all the time while they ask for help (like me, which always I feel guilty about). What if I wind up there, at such a low point, knowing I can barely muster enough motivation to apply to grad school let alone any convoluted, bureaucratic system like welfare or public housing? Who will look after me? I’m confronting the fact that it really will be just me alone who has to look after me. Even if I can support myself, I’m scared that loneliness will overwhelm me once my parents are gone and it’s especially scary knowing my mental health history.
I feel like this a quarter life crisis/Freudian/Erickson-esque stage I need to pass through. I’m also dealing with my BF (of 10 mo) most likely moving away for school soon and dealing with that loss too - and my BPD/abandonment issues are only exacerbating our fights and unconsciously sabotaging us and giving me flashbacks to my first relationship where I got dumped and wound up having a mental breakdown while grieving it (took me 3 years + this new relationship to overcome it but we’re friends now). The potential loss and change in life feels like too much to handle.
TLDR: I’m scared of my parents dying and not having any social support and having to face life all alone.
Is anyone else feeling this way? Has anyone else gone through these kind of emotions, and how did you cope? Any stories of hope after struggle would really help as well. I wish I was older and had my life together and my own family so the idea of losing my parents or partner wouldn’t feel like I was alone in the world.
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2021.12.09 03:46 Teiroi Red Mage Spell Table
wanted to double-check something. The Redmage spell table has extra spell slots compared to the normal full caster spell table is this intentional or oversight. at lvl 12 the red mage gets an extra 6th level spell, none of the other casters do,
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2021.12.09 03:46 pinoygamerph Qualcomm launches Razer handheld Snapdragon G3x portable console
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2021.12.09 03:46 themoorofvenice Mini float making, dance and talent competitions to celebrate Chingay50
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2021.12.09 03:46 yiotaturtle Should I accept a marriage proposal you aren't making?
My sim just got a call from his boyfriend saying that he found an engagement ring in his bag and wanted to know if he should accept or not.... then got mad when I selected do what you want.
My sim is a serial romantic.... no proposals coming down the line any time soon.
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2021.12.09 03:46 jctj2013 Mac Mail - Attachments
2021.12.09 03:46 johnnash124 Are the new gaming phones more powerful than the PS3s and Xbox 360s?
If yes, why are there no real AAA games working in the phones, the kind we have seen 10 years back released in PS3s and 360s? Is it because of the space constraint in the phones?
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2021.12.09 03:46 pieilgamer I reached Legendary with the striker only and with a below 50% Win-Rate. Stats and build included in this post. Fun Fact: 2300 kills and I couldn't get gold camo through natural gameplay.
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2021.12.09 03:46 NeitherAppointment40 Maki Itoh & Yuki Kamifuku
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2021.12.09 03:46 judebetz New player, need help.
So this may seem like a very mundane issue, but it is one that I simply need an answer to. With as much adventuring as I've been doing, I've managed to get my hands on a fair bit of loot. Only issue is I have no place to store it. Is there anywhere that a low level player can store anything? A home perhaps? I just have too many things and simply don't want to part with all of them.
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2021.12.09 03:46 scriptdog1 How come they can take our temperature now by having us hold our hand up but back when we were kids they had to shove a cold thermometer up our butt?
2021.12.09 03:46 pinoygamerph Mobile Legends M3 Group C Results - BTK will face BLCK in an upper bracket match after finishing 2nd
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2021.12.09 03:46 throwaway19941122  [f4a] [chat] [stressed as fuck plz hmu]
2021.12.09 03:46 UrStepDaddy911 😪
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2021.12.09 03:46 Ignitertyphon MOTHERSHIP STUCK AT 99% BUG
Literally every alternative game i play the mothership gets stuck at 99% And i can almost never use my mantis. Pixonic please fix this bug. Lemme know in the comments if any of you is experiencing this bug.
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2021.12.09 03:46 Kubinator3001 Spezi_MaiMai- Adventskalender: Tag 9
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2021.12.09 03:46 DeadPat Free Bright Dust in the Eververse
2021.12.09 03:46 themoorofvenice Man acquitted of attempted rape admits to molesting woman; he was earlier convicted of raping teen
2021.12.09 03:46 gimentor I love sanset
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2021.12.09 03:46 Sad_Sonic_333 Book recommendation
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