I've been honest but still stuck

2021.10.28 10:29 throwaway861083 I've been honest but still stuck

My husband (42M) and I (34F) have been together for 10 years with 3 kids and we suck at communication. Period. We also have very different personalities. I'm not a 'warm and fuzzy' person. I'm action oriented, rarely up in my feels, and I suck at verbalizing emotion much of the time. I'm a 'suck it up and move on' type person. My husband is very 'warm and fuzzy', his love language is words of affirmation, and the slightest inconvenience can ruin his day. I've felt as though I have been walking on eggshells for so long, trying to make sure nothing happens to upset him. He wants me to say all these sweet things constantly and when I don't say what he's expecting me to say, he gets upset. It's exhausting. For many years I've heard his complaints and back handed comments that I should say things nicer, I'm constantly tone policed, and he says I don't emotionally support him or say anything to build him up or show appreciation. I feel like I'm constantly trying to make sure I say the 'right thing' or use the right tone or body language. I don't even feel like I can just be myself around him because he sees everything I say and do as aggressive. I've been telling him for months, since January actually, that this isn't working anymore and I cannot give him what he needs. I acknowledge that I am not doing the things that make him happy, nor is he for me. I've expressed that I feel I'm best alone and and I think we should separate rather than continue down a path where we are bickering constantly. Yes, we've been in couples therapy but my feelings aren't changing. Anytime I express this he just says 'please stop, everything is fine.' He then says things like, 'what about our kids' and 'I said til death do us part but I guess you didn't mean it.' I'm just so exhausted. Why can't we just agree that things aren't working and move on? Everybody says to be honest and say how you feel but when I do it's like he refuses to accept it as reality.
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Age and location don't matter to me! I'm just looking to make things more interesting and maybe make this long term.
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When i look at my progress i see cards i cannot craft.
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Can they be somehow filtered out from the "craftable" option?
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2021.10.28 10:29 BigDiceDave Is magical healing a little too powerful in WWN? Alternative death/dying rules?

So, I made the mistake of allowing my players grab a level 1 Healer as a hireling a few sessions ago, and I'm slowly realizing that this means that they can basically heal their way out of every situation that might actually lead to a death of a player character outside of an outright TPK. (One of the other party members has the Gifted Chirurgeon focus, which basically means they can already heal quite well without the help of any of their hirelings, but that's fine with me).
So far, I've had the hireling charge the party the WWN suggested 10 SP per HP healed for every situation, but that's pretty much chump change compared to the amount of silver they get in your average session. Even if I got rid of the healer entirely, level 2 of the Gifted Chirurgeon focus allows one ally to revive another without Frailty if they have a positive Heal skill, and Frailty is pretty much the only way to make going down feel impactful RAW.
Maybe I'm just an OSR purist, but I honestly thing that magical healing is kind of overpowered in this game. I prefer escalating death-save type systems where the player in question has to roll a die to determine if they survive even if they go down for two or three rounds. Would adding such a system (for example, using the Luck saving throw) be too brutal or make magical healing not powerful enough? To me, the fact that magical healing is instantaneous vs. the 10 minutes elapsed by the First Aid check is balance enough, but I also check for random encounters religiously. What do you guys think?
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